I'm always fascinated by human behavior and why people do what they do. I finally understand in a holistic manner what it take -- other than having 'chemisty', 'the spark' or 'follow-through'. I've experienced interesting relationships (fam, friends, boys) with different types of people because of this curiosity to grow and learn and I finally think I'm almost there...
Anyway, what I'm saying is...there are six key things that I've tried to fulfill (without even knowing until now) that has made my current relationships be it family, friends or boyfriend, as strong as ever.
Here they are:
1.) Love/Connection
2.) ___________
3.) ___________
4.) ___________
5.) ___________
6.) ___________
You thought I was just gonna list em? I will, just not right now...but I start off with the one that I value most and believe-- Love and connection. But to understand what that even means requires awareness and competency from concept to practice. It's not like the 'I luv ya' type love notes you find on your 2nd grade Garfield valentine from Johnny (although I use to love those Snoopy and Garfield V-day cards)...It's the rare unconditional kind..
The 'Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle (p124) describes it best:
"true love, which has no opposite because it arises from beyond mind. Love as a continuous state is as yet very rare..."
When you truly love someone you remove the neediness, the clinging quality that creates the illusion of passion and aliveness..it rather reveals a tendency of dysfunction, addiction and what society can label as 'love', 'being in love' or even 'romantic'.
Being connected with someone is having some kind of common interest, be it rock climbing, computers, or swapping tips on cycling. Curiosity and learning helped me build connection between people..