*not in any particular order but a certain order in my experience, tends to create a different outcome.
1.) Love/Connection
2.) Certainty
3.) ___________
4.) ___________
5.) ___________
6.) ___________
The second of these human needs is certainty. All of us want a sense of comfort, the certainty that our friends, family or doggie/kitty will always be there for us through thick and thin. It's true, I've found more people tend to emphasize on having certainty in everything rather than embracing change, which is inevitable in life. Certainty is a need because it creates ease. It's something we can count on and know that despite all negativity in the world around us, we can rely on that which is certain to put us at peace. To be certain, is to avoid pain...such as failing at something.
To me, clarity is brought forth through uncertainty.... it is a true test of my intuition and the choices I make. In uncertainty, there can be an outer purpose, often surface level reactions to a situation...or a deeper, intuitive inner purpose that comes to fruition..that often comes from your gut. It's like if you're caught in a bad family or work situation where there's no structure, no sense of understanding or a goal...you can react with negativity...asking "why is this happening" "I can't move forward from here"..or use the uncertainty as a gain...a way to grow "if I'm not sure about the the goals, I'll create one of my own".
I can honestly say my life is exceptional right now in every aspect because I set standards and valued balance in all areas. The uncertainty came in each area at different times and different magnitudes (e.g. loss of family members, not knowing if I am in the right relationships..etc). Certainty came in the way I chose to act upon situations, not how situations controlled my actions. And though there is still uncertainty in what's to come...it's a healthy acceptance that whatever comes, is an opportunity for growth...development....the feeling when you've waited all spring for the little lemon seed to grow and suddenly it bears fruit and lots of lemons...enough to make a nice cold pitcher of refreshing lemonade to share with the ones that provide comfort and certainty...
The more I see the less I know for sure.
John Lennon (1940-1980) British musician.